I’ve given a few private lessons to a client who received an 8-week-old Golden Retriever puppy as a Christmas present. This man is retired, a recent graduate of cancer treatments, and lives alone. His young adult children apparently thought he needed a companion and bought him the puppy as a gift.
Fortunately, the puppy is absolutely lovely—a cupcake of a sweet puppy who learns quickly and already has the ability to settle down quickly after moments of play or training. Even so, she has typical baby canine needs to chew, explore, potty frequently, interact with others, and play—and that can be exhausting for anyone to deal with alone, and 24/7!
Now add in doctor’s appointments, shopping and home-maintenance tasks, social visits—you know, a real life—and fit all of that in around meeting the puppy’s needs. My client loves the puppy, and loves the thought behind what his children were trying to do for him, but is finding himself exhausted and overwhelmed by the puppy’s needs. He told me, “I did want to get a dog again at some point—but I imagined that I might adopt an adult or older dog. I did not think I’d be raising a puppy again at my age, and especially without a wife to help!”
Already, this “gift” puppy has cost my client a small fortune. He’s bought a crate, beds, bowls, toys, chews, treats, collars, a harness, leashes, a car seat cover, and a large covered pen for the puppy to stay in outdoors while he’s busy with yard chores and can’t actively supervise her. He’s taken her to the vet for vaccines and a fecal exam, hired me to help make sure he’s training and handling the puppy properly, and arranged for her to stay with her breeder for 10 days when he takes a long-scheduled vacation out of the country later this month. And he’s signed up for a puppy kindergarten class to start when he gets back from his trip. In all, he’s likely spent several thousand dollars on a puppy he didn’t ask for—but doesn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by sending her back to the breeder. Plus, she’s sweet, and he likes dogs and figured he’d want a dog again someday.
This might all work out. The puppy is absolutely a peach, and her owner is doing everything he can think of to manage her properly. But it’s not without risks; I can see that my client is exhausted—and he admits he’s lost his patience and temper with the puppy a few times, which could hurt his relationship with the sweet, sensitive young dog.
I thought that as a culture, we were more or less past the times when it seemed like a good idea to select and buy a dog as a gift for someone else. Shouldn’t they have the option of choosing their own dog, and bringing the dog into their home at a time of their own choosing? The responsibilities and the investment of time and money are a lot to inflict on someone!
Are you aware of a “gift puppy” situation that worked out extraordinarily well? What contributed to the success of the puppy’s placement?
I was quite horrified to see our local animal shelter’s Christmas campaign, “Home for the Holidays.” An effort to clear the shelter before Christmas. Just the opposite of advice usually given. 🙁
This article hit home with me. Many years back when my father was diagnosed with alzheimer’s my mother mentioned that she thought she would like to bring in a dog. My bright idea was for Christmas that year was to give my parents a puppy mix Poodle/ Cocker Spaniel. the cutest ball of fur you could see. This was a gift between my family and my oldest daughter’s family. Well mother and father loved the gift. Two weeks later I get a call from mom telling me she cannot handle the care of this dog because it is not trained and doing its business all over her formal living room carpet. She was already exhausted from taking care dad now she was taking care of this puppy. I traveled 2 states to get the puppy and between my older daughter and I we took turns in taking care of this sweet dog. A month later and dog is trained my mother calls wanting her dog back. This dogs name was Buttons and she ended up being my dad’s lap dog even when he did not recognize anyone in the family. She was at my moms side after my dads passing and gave her comfort.. Buttons passed of cancer 10 years later bless her soul. Some dogs are ment for placement for special jobs.
I tried to talk my mother into a cat because I knew a dog would be too much of a problem for her, but she didn’t even want that much responsibility in her 80’s. Now I’m 70 and bought a Golden Doodle two years ago who I’ve spent a lot of money on. Even without the toys and treats just the daily food is costly. The shots and check ups are costly, and so is the day care…And I chose to get my dog.
I know this is about dogs, but when I was young there was a time when some stores actually sold little chicks around Easter. My grandparents had a farm with laying chickens so at least we had somewhere to bring them as they went from chicks into chickens, but many didn’t. Thankfully they outlawed selling them as gifts
A friend was gifted a Golden Retriever puppy. She had absolutely no supplies, her house wasn’t puppy-proofed and she was still working full time. She had to take time off from work as she hurried to get her life adjusted to her new fur baby. She immediately looked for a good doggy daycare, but then was faced with enormous Vet bills when the puppy became terribly sick and she almost lost him. During the next couple months he was frequently an inpatient for days at the Vet clinic. Social media disagreed with me when I said gifting a puppy was the worst idea ever.
Puppies and dogs are not gifts. Period. As a humane, dedicated breeder, when you phone me for a puppy as a gift for someone, especially very elderly people or your kids, my answer is a big “No”. I often tell people puppies are not toys for your kids. They are living, breathing, emotional beings, not toys.
It is terrible… “gifting” any life creature, let alone a very energetic puppy. I am 67 very fit and outdoors every day in the High Rockies…i lost my Cairn 8 month ago, my husband, 64 his Lab 2 years ago. We are currently considering adopting a dog and I am carefully weighing all options. I look 10 years into the future likely the life span of an adult adopted dog. We travel….to Europe for several month a year to see family, so it should be in the cabin with us (smaller pooch), my daughter who is working as “Divisional” for Veterinarian Hospitals, my son-in-law, a Veterinarian would definitely take the pooch if something were to happen to me or my husband…but i am still pondering this. I have had dogs all of my life and i terribly miss all of my dogs…but any animal is a huge responsibility…and yes, very expensive. I spent the last year of my 16 year old cairn about $600 a month on pet insurance, Vet care, meds, prescription food. That is not a small amount. So yes….a “Gifted dog” is irresponsible in my book, and i agree, a dog is something that the owner needs to pick out herself.
My dogs ALWAYS picked me 😉….